If things aren’t going right in your business, it seems to be the answer to everything at the moment: change your mindset.

Everyone is born with the mindset needed to grow a business; determination and resilience. So why do we stop thinking we can achieve what we want to do?

You’ve already achieved the hardest thing you’re likely to face. As babies, when we’re learning to walk or talk, we don’t just give up when we fall over, or get our sounds wrong.

Never underestimate how hard you had to work, how many times you failed and how determined you were to finally reach your goals.

You were the same person then, as you are now, so what’s changed?

Well what’s changed, is the thoughts and beliefs you have now, after a lifetime of knock-backs and events out of your control.

Everytime you’ve had to deal with a difficult event or source of stress, the way you, and others around you, behave and act influences your future resilience.

This starts when we’re children. The relationships we have with our immediate family members can provide us with essential stability, love and encouragement when we fail, or not.

If we don’t feel safe to fail or feel able to cope in stressful situations because our role models for this behaviour were absent as children, we develop thoughts and behaviours to keep us safe.

We won’t take risks or try new things because we tell ourselves that we could be emotionally or physically hurt.

This eats away out our resilience and we lose our determination to achieve our goals.

So what can you do to change your mindset and build your resilience? Here’s my advice.


Find Your Tribe

This could be reigniting lost relationships with friends and family, or connecting with new groups of like-minded people online, or in real life.

Accepting help and support from others who listen to you, strengthens your resilience and helps your to change your mindset


Move Towards Your Goals

Even if you only achieve small accomplishments, as long as you are moving, every day, towards your goals you will start to see what you are capable of.


Practise Gratitude

Even on our worst days, there is always something to be grateful for.

A warm bed, a cuddle from your kids or a nice cup of tea are all valid reasons to feel grateful.

Maintaining this positive outlook will help you to expect positive things to happen and this will help you to keep things in perspective.

Try to think of five things you are grateful for every night before bed.


Most importantly? Take Care of Yourself.

Without guilt, make sure you pay attention to your own needs and feelings however much your family needs you, you can’t pour from an empty cup.

So make sure you look after yourself too.